Life can be challenging independently, and when you’re in a relationship, you may face your partner’s challenges in addition to your own. Every couple has its unique blend of characteristics, behaviors, ideas, values, and challenges. These differences can lead to conflicts.
Couples therapists are licensed professionals trained to support couples with various goals. Whether you’re looking for premarital counseling, experiencing a relationship challenge, planning a family, or seeking to improve intimacy, a couples therapist can offer valuable support. Understanding how to find a professional in your area is beneficial when seeking services for the first time, as various types of couples therapy exist.
What can a couples therapist help with?
Not all couples therapists practice the same type of therapy, and each professional may have their own specialty or concerns they are experienced in treating. Common reasons couples might seek therapy include:
- Communication challenges
- Sexual dysfunction
- Emotional closeness
- Differing values or morals
- Mismatched libido (sex drive)
- Mismatched love languages
- Family challenges
- Parenting conflicts
- Infidelity (cheating or affairs)
- Trust issues
- Financial struggles
- Life transitions
- Grief
- Traumatic experiences
You may benefit from a specialist depending on the reason you seek therapy. Doing your research before selecting a therapist can ensure you find the proper fit. Note that couples therapy can benefit any couple looking to improve or grow in any aspect of their relationship.
What will the first couples therapy session look like?
Once you’ve found a therapist you and your partner are both interested in, you might be invited to a consultation or an intake session. This session can be short and free or a paid full-length session, either online or in person.
Your therapist may ask you a few questions about your motives for seeking therapy, your goals for treatment, and the most significant challenges in your relationship. Some therapists may meet with each partner individually and then together to understand each partner’s perspective.
Your therapist might also ask general questions about your life and character so they can get to know you. Understanding your career, parenting status, education, and daily responsibilities can help them understand what conflicts could arise or how much time you have to commit to learning skills with your partner.
Questions to ask a couples therapist
In your first session or during a quick consultation with your prospective therapist, consider asking the following questions:
What techniques do you use?
Each therapist may take a unique approach to treatment. Understanding their therapy techniques can help you decide if the therapist’s services would be effective for your concerns.
What is your session cost, and do you accept insurance?
The cost of Couples Therapy varies nationally, but we can provide a more in-depth price breakdown here at Advanced Behavior Health Inc.
How can we make sessions most successful?
Although therapists are there to help you and your partner meet your goals, couples can also work to make therapy function. Being willing, open-minded, and considerate can help couples counseling sessions offer the most benefit. Therapy is not an activity that is done to you but one that you and your partner actively participate in with the guidance of a licensed therapist.
Qualities to consider in a provider
Many qualities can make or break a therapeutic relationship. When seeking a couples therapist, consider the following categories:
Subjectivity and lack of bias
Ethical therapists practice professional subjectivity and reduce bias during sessions. Bias can look like inserting opinions, favoring one partner, or discussing unprofessional ideas. Subjectivity can reduce bias by allowing therapists to consider all sides of a situation, fairly evaluate each partner, and respectfully express opinions based on research and educational background.
Identity
The best couples therapists try to understand a couple’s unique circumstances, identity, and beliefs. When looking for a professional for couples therapy, ask yourself if you’d prefer them to have any of the following identities:
- Polyamorous
- Black Indigenous Person Of Color (BIPOC)
- Spiritual or religious
- Immigrant
- LGBTQ+
- Non-English speaker
- Transgender or non-binary
- Disabled
Having a therapist with a similar identity to you or your partner may allow them to use their life experience as individuals in the same identity category to support you more effectively.
Modality
Finally, consider the modality your therapist practices. Typical forms of couples therapy include:
- Emotionally focused therapy (EFT)
- Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical behavior couples therapy (DBT)
- Sex therapy
- The Gottman method
- Family therapy
Takeaway
Couples therapy offers a range of counseling benefits and can be an effective form of treatment for those looking to better their relationship. At Advanced Behavior Health Inc., our mission to serve the community’s complex mental health needs regardless of race, gender, age, religion, sexual identity, and disability ensures you receive compassionate and inclusive care. If you have more questions about couples therapy or are interested in meeting with a couples therapist, consider contacting us online or in your area to get started.
Contact Information:
Advanced Behavior Health Inc.
301-345-1022
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